Rediscovering

Since Andrew came home from his mission almost 3 months ago I have received tons of messages asking me when we are sealing the deal. It's kind of an awkward question that is hard for us to answer. At least for now. Yes, we have talked about getting married and we know what we want, but we also don't want to rush into it. 

He was gone for a while. He changed. I changed. We were two different people when we were reunited again- but we still loved each other, and we still do.

I read a post from an MG who got her boy back and she(most of the MG's getting their RM's back after 2 years,) had imagined a fairy tale homecoming and was kinda disappointed when reality hit her. It's an adjusting process that doesn't take a day to accomplish.

Lara Becar, an MG who is now married to her sweet RM, wrote, "No matter how effectively and consistently you communicated through letters and emails, you WILL need to get to know him again... It's easy to say the right things when you can write it over and over again. Communication is very different in real life. It's quick and impulsive and your true self is spilling out. Not that you don't love who he has become, but he is different. Very different. And you are different. If you want a relationship to work, you have to build a new one. You can't have the one you had before. It won't work because you are not those people anymore. You have to rediscover each other. You have to fall in love again. Not that love left, but that love changed, and your relationship has to change with it."

This is the truth. 

I imagined seeing Andrew again and having it to be perfect. And it was.

But it can't be perfect every day, right?

Things will get hard if not harder, but it also doesn't mean that it won't get better.

This is why I tell some girls who are waiting that they have to go out there and live their lives. To enjoy every day. To learn new things and acquire new habits and improve talents. Get a job, get an education, magnify your callings, help the YSA for a fund raising, travel and volunteer to teach, go to dances and balls. Put yourselves out there and do your best to mature a little every day. 

That boy who left will come home to be a better person. You wouldn't want him to come home to the same you. He will want to come home to the woman he hoped you to become, just like the man you always hoped he would become. 

Some homecomings are perfect and never have to deal with the whole "Wow we are so different now. I am not sure anymore if this will work out." 

It's pretty normal. I say it's a phase most MG's go through after the homecoming, including myself.

Marriage is such a big word. We know the importance of it. It is a big responsibility and the most beautiful thing I could ever imagine to be blessed with for the rest of my life and the life to come.

One day. It will come, but right now we just want to build a new relationship. The one we never got to build before. We want to rediscover ourselves, to get to know each other again, and to fall in love again.

I really appreciate everyone loving our relationship and wanting to see us together forever. You guys rock and we love you! But no pressure people, no pressure. ;)