First of all, men and women are biologically built differently. Yada yada yada. We all know that already. But guys, when you say that women are so complicated, do you really think that you're not? Because really, women as we are, all we know is what we are, therefore, men to us are complicated, too.
Anyway, I will have another blog on Understanding Men. Ask Andrew, I am a pro at understanding him. Haha. No, but for real though. I will explain it in another blog.
So, let's get down to business.
WHY DO MEN PULL AWAY?
First, like I said on my previous blog post, men fall in love differently than women fall in love. Women know sooner than men will know. You ladies out there need to chill. I know you like him so much and you just want him to want you. You want him to stick around. You want him to commit to you. You want to be exclusive. But that's NOT going to happen right away, girls. Men are lazy. They want to slow down. They do not want to rush, so, DO NOT rush the relationship or he will pull away.
Second, you probably should NOT talk about how many babies you want to have with him on your first few weeks together or how you should get married in the morning, OR HE WILL PULL AWAY. When you are in a new relationship, see where things go. Do NOT text him and be like, "Omg I know we just started dating, but I am sooo into you and I see my future with you and my feelings are so strong for you." He may not feel the same way just yet, because again, he's lazy. He wants to take it slow. Who knows the dude might want to really get to know you well enough first. You are just going to scare the crap out of that poor guy. Trust me, there's a time for that later in your relationship.
Third, NEVER ASSUME. Men's brains are complicated, like ours. But unlike us, they cannot read our subtle hints. They just can't. Plain and simple. They cannot. So, say what you want to say. BE BLUNT, or he will get tired of playing your guessing games and will eventually get tired of you, too.
Fourth, you should probably do the old fashion way of having men make the first move. It takes men twice as much time as we do to figure out how they really feel about us. The moment you express strong emotional connection for him AND he did not, he will question the whole scenario and then he will back off. He will think that he led you on so much into thinking that you are at the same emotional level, when in fact, he is not there yet. That will cause him to pull away. So, my advice to you is just wait until he expresses his feelings to you first.
Fifth, do NOT throw yourself onto him. Men want the chase. They want to be able to say, "Dude, she was worth it." They want to earn you. Earn your trust, your love, your heart. Throwing yourself onto him without giving him the chance to even put a little effort to chase you will make him pull away. He will think, "Man, this is boring. I'm not even doing anything. Imma peace out. Laterrrrr!"
Sixth, "You cannot rush something you want to last for a long time." Just be patient, because sometimes guys can be as complicated as we are. lol. They need space, too. Do not suffocate them with too much emotions. That's not their thing. Speak their language and stop whining. Do not always want to hang out 24/7. Make time for yourself and give him time for himself. Don't be controlling. If you can go out with your girls to get your nails done, let him go out with his bromances to play pools or go fishing or something. Compliment him and then reject him. Do not compliment him too much. It will make his head big. Do not also always reject him because he will get tired. Balance it.
I know it's complicated. I told ya, women aren't the only ones who are complicated, men are too.
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