Some of you have a different say on this topic, which is cool, because we are all subject to our own opinions, and I still love you for the person that you are.
Nobody would believe me and Andrew when we say we haven't had sex and will NEVER have sex until we are married.
I remember him telling me one day, something like, "Soooo, I talked to my friends and when I told them that kissing was as far as we ever went on being physical, they didn't believe me. I told them we've never had sex."
Also, most of the people close to me have been dropping comments on how they think we are doing "the do." My friends in high school used to call me "Virgin Mary." When people ask me if I am, I would be hesitant to say that I am, because I was scared of being judged and being bullied for being so "weird."
At that point, I was almost embarrassed of myself for being so weird.
Today, I am proud of the woman I have become because of the decision I have made...to stay weird.
At that point, I was almost embarrassed of myself for being so weird.
Today, I am proud of the woman I have become because of the decision I have made...to stay weird.
If Andrew and I were doing it, I wouldn't deny it. But, since we are NOT doing it and people think we are, I am also not denying it.
You know why nobody believes us? Because society is so messed up. Because everyone is doing it, therefore, we must be doing it, too. But guess what guys? People like us still exist. As hard as that to believe, we do.
We are those people. We believe that saving such precious gift from God until we are married is the most amazing thing we could do for ourselves.
It's not just about religion either. This is a personal choice we have made. More than anything, it's something that I value with all my heart.
I am not judging anyone here. I don't disrespect anyone just because they do things against what I value. We all have our free agency, the gift to willingly choose what we want for ourselves. This post is for myself and for those girls out there who are more like me. You are not alone. Be proud of what still have. You are worth more than a jewel.
This post is also for those that for so many years have been telling me I will get pregnant soon.
No, guys. I won't. Not until after I sign that marriage contract.
Yes, temptations have been so hard growing up and there have been times where I felt like I should just give it up since it's acceptable now anyway.
Wrong. It was never acceptable to me. I have known that because for 21 years I have done my best to save the best part of me for the man who deserves all of me. I couldn't just afford to give it up to all the men who proclaimed their love for me.
Andrew and I laid out our standards on the table. Who cares if it was awkward, it was necessary. I literally told him specifically what we can do and what we can't do. He made me decide all of it and respected all of it-until this day.
We have been together for a year and a half and you best believe me when I say we have not had sex. Ever. Not even once. Not even close. Sex is not a declaration of love. Not in all things. Not when you're only lonely or drunk or just bored or because you are so in love that all you see are the colors of the rainbow. It's given to us to make life, not to go around and have too much fun and then dump girls because you're pretty much done.
Some people say Andrew and I don't love each other and don't even know what love is to begin with because we haven't done anything yet. Haha. Really now guys? Our relationship was NEVER built nor made or based on sex. We've both gone 20 and 21 years of our lives without it. Pretty sure we can still live without it now -until we decide to get married. Love is not just physical pleasure to make you feel good about yourself. If that's your definition of love, then you'll never find it.
Andrew and I know what love really is, because we've never depended on sex just to obtain it. We never used it as a tool to bring happiness in our relationship. We have been happy no matter what.
A man who respects you enough and never walks away from you just because you won't sleep with him, IS A MAN WORTH KEEPING.
According to Cracking the man code, how men fall in love is so different from how women fall in love. Women usually know they are in love sooner than men know. It's because women have a strong emotional side while men have a strong sexual side. Yep, we all know that already. It's how men are wired up. It's their sex drive. But, there is only one word that allows a man to fall in love faster, and that is when women say, "No."
Most guys would try to hook up with you and when you say no, he will say, "most girls say no the first time." And then he will try to hook up with you again. When you say no, he will say, "eh, most girls will say no the second time." So he will try to hook up again.
No matter how many times he tries to hook up with you, if you don't give it up, men will come to a conclusion. Most of them do. They are going to say, "Hmmm, I am not getting any action. So, the only reason why I am going to hang out with her is because I really like her. I have an emotional connection with her. She's a cool chick." At that point men travel from their sexual point to their emotional point. Let's be honest, guys, for some men that is a really hard thing to do. They have 20% more testosterone in their bodies than women have. Leaving their comfort zones to connect with you emotionally to figure out how they REALLY feel about you is a big deal. A BIG DEAL. Remember that girls.
If you want a man to truly sincerely fall in love with you, say no and don't give it up just yet. Let him come to the conclusion and figure out how he really feels about you. If he genuinely loves you, he will love you no matter what. I know that because I have been blessed with that man in my life.
Stating what you want is the sexiest thing you can do. It's that four letter word, "WANT." I WANT. I want commitment before I will sleep with you. I want monogamy before I will sleep with you. I want marriage before I will sleep with you. No matter what that contract is that you want before you give it up, make sure you communicate that to him... standing vertically, FULLY CLOTHED.
Don't be scared to tell a man what you want, because you will never scare a man who doesn't want a commitment. Take that from me.
We are those people. We believe that saving such precious gift from God until we are married is the most amazing thing we could do for ourselves.
It's not just about religion either. This is a personal choice we have made. More than anything, it's something that I value with all my heart.
I am not judging anyone here. I don't disrespect anyone just because they do things against what I value. We all have our free agency, the gift to willingly choose what we want for ourselves. This post is for myself and for those girls out there who are more like me. You are not alone. Be proud of what still have. You are worth more than a jewel.
This post is also for those that for so many years have been telling me I will get pregnant soon.
No, guys. I won't. Not until after I sign that marriage contract.
Yes, temptations have been so hard growing up and there have been times where I felt like I should just give it up since it's acceptable now anyway.
Wrong. It was never acceptable to me. I have known that because for 21 years I have done my best to save the best part of me for the man who deserves all of me. I couldn't just afford to give it up to all the men who proclaimed their love for me.
Andrew and I laid out our standards on the table. Who cares if it was awkward, it was necessary. I literally told him specifically what we can do and what we can't do. He made me decide all of it and respected all of it-until this day.
We have been together for a year and a half and you best believe me when I say we have not had sex. Ever. Not even once. Not even close. Sex is not a declaration of love. Not in all things. Not when you're only lonely or drunk or just bored or because you are so in love that all you see are the colors of the rainbow. It's given to us to make life, not to go around and have too much fun and then dump girls because you're pretty much done.
Some people say Andrew and I don't love each other and don't even know what love is to begin with because we haven't done anything yet. Haha. Really now guys? Our relationship was NEVER built nor made or based on sex. We've both gone 20 and 21 years of our lives without it. Pretty sure we can still live without it now -until we decide to get married. Love is not just physical pleasure to make you feel good about yourself. If that's your definition of love, then you'll never find it.
Andrew and I know what love really is, because we've never depended on sex just to obtain it. We never used it as a tool to bring happiness in our relationship. We have been happy no matter what.
A man who respects you enough and never walks away from you just because you won't sleep with him, IS A MAN WORTH KEEPING.
According to Cracking the man code, how men fall in love is so different from how women fall in love. Women usually know they are in love sooner than men know. It's because women have a strong emotional side while men have a strong sexual side. Yep, we all know that already. It's how men are wired up. It's their sex drive. But, there is only one word that allows a man to fall in love faster, and that is when women say, "No."
Most guys would try to hook up with you and when you say no, he will say, "most girls say no the first time." And then he will try to hook up with you again. When you say no, he will say, "eh, most girls will say no the second time." So he will try to hook up again.
No matter how many times he tries to hook up with you, if you don't give it up, men will come to a conclusion. Most of them do. They are going to say, "Hmmm, I am not getting any action. So, the only reason why I am going to hang out with her is because I really like her. I have an emotional connection with her. She's a cool chick." At that point men travel from their sexual point to their emotional point. Let's be honest, guys, for some men that is a really hard thing to do. They have 20% more testosterone in their bodies than women have. Leaving their comfort zones to connect with you emotionally to figure out how they REALLY feel about you is a big deal. A BIG DEAL. Remember that girls.
If you want a man to truly sincerely fall in love with you, say no and don't give it up just yet. Let him come to the conclusion and figure out how he really feels about you. If he genuinely loves you, he will love you no matter what. I know that because I have been blessed with that man in my life.
Stating what you want is the sexiest thing you can do. It's that four letter word, "WANT." I WANT. I want commitment before I will sleep with you. I want monogamy before I will sleep with you. I want marriage before I will sleep with you. No matter what that contract is that you want before you give it up, make sure you communicate that to him... standing vertically, FULLY CLOTHED.
Don't be scared to tell a man what you want, because you will never scare a man who doesn't want a commitment. Take that from me.
You go woman! What others think of you, is none of your business..... you two got this! Love you Anne!
ReplyDeleteAww. Thank you, Mamabear! Love you!
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