Will I Ever Find 'The One'?

This blog post is soley for those who are so fixated in the idea of 'The One.'

Here's the thing, I hate this concept.

I say hate because the idea of finding the right person is messing with everybody's heads. That's what movies and books tell you. Once you find someone who does not meet your criteria, hence you dump them. Probably also the reason why you will never find the one. 

I don't believe that there is that one person in the world waiting for us. I don't believe that we just have to stick around in our relationships for the mean time while we go search for 'The One.' And when we finally find the one, we can just go ahead and dump the person we are with right now. What an insult that is to the person who loves you. What if it was the other way around? What if you wanted them so bad, but they're only with you until they find the one for them? How would you feel?

See where I'm going with this?

There is no such thing as 'The One' if you perceive it as perfection. It does not exist.

You can list all the characteristics of Mr./Mrs Right. You can go about searching for this person and then after 12 years of searching, you finally find this person who meets all the requirements you have on your list, but there's just one problem- you are not on their list.

That would have to be the saddest love story of all times.

What I don't understand is why you so demand this person to be all that you ever wanted when you're not even perfect yourself. You probably don't have the bluest eyes or the best butt in the world. But if he chooses you, you best believe he loves both the best and the worst part of you. And you have no right to say he is not enough just because his pinky finger is bigger than his thumb. 

No matter how much you search for 'The One' in the world, you will never find them unless they feel the same way about you.

It has to be mutual.

The One for you is the one YOU CHOOSE and the one WHO CHOOSES YOU back - not the stranger in France who doesn't even know you exist. 

What makes a relationship amazing is more on commitment, more on what you put in to the relationship, more on the years you have spent building your life together than your whole idea of perfection, because that does not exist.

Far too many couples fall apart because tiny errors make them conclude that this person they are with is NOT the one. He's not the one because he doesn't know how to cook the bacon right. He's not the one because he annoys me too much. His socks are just not the same size. His teeth are too small. His shirts are not Volcom and he doesn't surf. He doesn't even lift, what the heck?! You can't even smell him because he's too plain. 

We all want that perfect person who has everything on the table. The one who smells good, attractive, sporty, smart, funny yet have a bit of a bad side, can cook, buys you shiny things, takes you out on an expensive dinner every night and all that jazz.

You may find a person who is extremely handsome and rich and smart, but isn't all that sweet. You may find someone who is very sweet and will love you like nobody's business, but might not be all that smart. 

There is always something that will bug you about the person you love, but that's okay. Chances are, you probably bug them more than they bug you. So, get over yourselves.

"Relationships can be messy and inconvenient, but those are the best parts."

I guess all I'm saying is, just stop finding the perfect person to love, and start loving the person you have found. 

And if you don't have anyone right now, keep this in mind when you are finally with someone.

Remember, soulmates are made- not born.

Love ya sweet angel faces. Make good choices. :)